Posts Tagged ‘Relationship Vixen’

Delaying Marriage: “The Five-Year Engagement”

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Christie Nightingale, Principal of Premier Match, with offices in NJ ,NYC, PA and DC is a renowned relationship expert and media spokesperson on the topics of dating, love and relationships. “When I look around, I see that the movie The Five-Year Engagement” depicts the true trend in marriages in the US.” She has seen a significant change in the younger population of people who are seeking marriage. Many hold off on marriage until their late-30s, if they get married at all. Many more have partners who they cohabitate with and start having families with regardless of saying, “I do.”

According to the Pew Research Center, marriage is losing its market share.

Barely half of adults ages 18 and older are married – 51% in 2010, compared with 72% in 1960. This decline is especially notable for young adults: 20% of 18- to 29-year-olds were married in 2010, compared with 59% in 1960

So, what’s the reason for these statistics? Well, more are people opting for higher educations and higher degrees. They want to be settled into their careers, have some savings and travel before they truly settle down. Or some married young, got divorced and don’t want to go through it again. They’d rather be in a long term-relationship that can be just as meaningful as a marriage. And sometimes, life just happens. Hollywood definetly tapped into the trend with the movie, “The Five-Year Engagement.” read more

Share Your Dating Horror Stories Via Facebook!

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Have you ever had a date that you wish you could forget? Well, instead of longing for an invention that will wipe your memory clean; why not share it with the world? In celebration of the premier of the VH1 reality series ‘Tough Love”, a new Facebook app, Ditch or Date, has launched!

Here you’ll find a slew of dating nightmares and of course a few success stories.  Reading about the dating lives of others has never been this much fun. Yet the real reward lies in sharing your own tale of romantic  woe. The app offers the chance to win some fab prizes prizes, like the House of Harlow jewelry, Lululemon yoga gear, and even advice from the Master Matchmaker himself, Steve Ward.

Who knew a bad date could be so rewarding? Videos after the jump…

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Relationship Vixen: Keeping a Relationship Journal

One of the things that I enjoy most is writing in a journal before bed. I have kept a journal since third grade and it has been very beneficial. On one hand it acts as a sort of release for me from the day’s activities, while helping me to sort out topics that I may be struggling with. I’ve recently realized however, that there is a third benefit to having kept a journal for so many years. I can go back and read about past relationships and analyze them from a future perspective.

Looking back at past relationships can make present relationships make more sense. You may discover that you keep dating the same type of person and wonder why it never works out. Past journals can help you to break the cycle!

You may also find some solace in reading these past entries. For instance, if you are going through a very difficult break-up, going back and reading about a past break-up that was probably just as difficult gives you a sense of ease that, if you were able to recover from a heartache just as difficult in the past, then you can and will do it again!!

Reading past journals can also boost your self-esteem because you can really see, as clear as day, just how much you have grown and how far you’ve come in dealing with relationships!

Relationship Vixen: Should Women Hit on Men?

At one point in my dating “career,” I started to explore hitting on men as an alternative to waiting for him to hit on me. At first I felt very confident and “ballsy,” if you will. I’d spot a guy that I found attractive and I’d march right over to him and start up a conversation. I would almost always think that things were going good and that I had really impressed the guy. I’d often leave the conversation with a cute one-liner that had him chuckling and my number stored into his phone, but time and time again this technique would flop because HE NEVER CALLED!!!

Now, either I coincidently always chose men who were somehow unavailable, starting a new relationship or getting back with their exes OR it had to have been my approach! I started to think that hitting on a guy does not work. I think that men need to feel the chase; like they are these big burly hunters out fighting for their kill! Somehow hunting is not fun when your prey comes right up to you and basically grabs your riffle by the shaft (no pun intended) and tells you to fire!!

Needless to say, this method of meeting men has been filed away for a while now. I think the best way to get a guy to come and talk to you is to smile at him and hope that he can muster up enough courage to come and at least say hello.

What experiences have you had with hitting on men?

~Relationship Vixen

The “Back Burner” Phenomenon

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You know you are on the back-burner when “He lets you go to sleep mad”

The oldest trick in the dating book has been sweeping the nation lately…The “Back-Burner” phenomenon- Daters beware! This strategy is used by many and it can be very deceiving if you let it. People now- a- days are always looking for the better deal. Don’t get me wrong, I am a firm believer in not settling for anything but the best, but when I know that something or SOMEONE is not right for me then I know how to tell them goodbye.

5 Ways To Tell If You Are on Somebody’s “Back Burner”:

1.) They make plans with you last second- This guy has more “interesting” things to do, but if those things fall through then he’s always got you as a back-up plan. Don’t fall for this sly means of keeping you interested just enough, so HE’s not alone!

2.) They say one thing but act in another way- This guy has an agenda and that agenda does not include your feelings or happiness. His agenda only includes his needs and wants. Stringing you along is of no concern for him. He’ll give you the world of love you so desire, but he’ll do it with WORDS only.

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Relationship Vixen: Latin Lovers

Sometimes a little attention from the men-folk is a great confidence booster.

There is a reason for the term “Latin Lovers” and I believe I discovered it on a recent trip to Puerto Vallarta Mexico. If you’ve got the low self-esteem bug lately and need a confidence booster, I recommend going to a Latin based country! The men there are just so comfortable with giving you compliments and showing that they find you attractive…it can be a real confidence booster.

Obviously I am not telling anyone to go and get used by these gentleman (because we know there can be a hidden agenda to the praise), but if you just enjoy the outward show of approval that these men have the tendency to shower you with, then it can be beneficial to your self-esteem. I only wish more men were like that in the United States.

It seems to me like guys here in the states tend to play more games. It is almost customary to act like you are NOT interested in order to put some sort of message out there. This makes it harder to meet men and women start to feel less confident because of the lack of male attention.

Showing that you are interested in a female in a confident manner can be very appealing to a woman (and very flattering)!! It seems to me that European men are also more comfortable with expressing interest and they don’t have to be intoxicated to do it!!

I don’t mean to diss American men, believe me there are some fine pickings over here, but maybe they could use some helpful hints from their Latin and European counter parts!!

~Relationship Vixen

10 Tips for Using a Break-Up as a Remedy for Change

10 Tips for Using a Break-Up as a Remedy for Change

“Get out of the same dull routine of coming home after work and sitting on the couch for three hours” Yesterday we talked about how Breaking up can be the BEST remedy for changing your life! Well, as promised here is a list of 10 things to do post break up:

1.) Take a class you have been wanting to take: photography, web-design, cooking, jewelry- making etc.

2.) Start studying a foreign language (if you need something time consuming to keep your wandering mind at bay then, believe me, this is the task for you)

3.) Join a NEW gym (or any gym at all if you don’t already belong to one). Getting those endorphins flowing can be a total mood change (in a good way)!!

4.) Do things differently: wake up earlier and hit up the gym or go for a walk, get out of the same dull routine of coming home after work and sitting on the couch for three hours. Shop at different stores in different towns, hang out with people you wouldn’t normally hang out with. If we keep doing the same things then we will get the same results. This is a time for change and growth, so take advantage of it!   read more

Breaking up can be the BEST remedy for changing your life!

What can be a better wake up call then getting your heart trampled on and all of your future dreams tossed out the window like the baby’s bath water?! Getting dumped can be one of the hardest life lessons that a person has to face, but it can also be a great remedy for changing your life!

Some people take a break- up and dwell on it…let’s face it, most of us do! We’ve all been there, moping about wondering “why me?!” It is okay and NORMAL to think about the creep who couldn’t live up to all of your expectations, but it is POWERFUL to take the experience and start making changes. Positive changes can impact your life in an amazing way and let everyone know, including and most importantly yourself, that nobody is going to break your spirit!

A person has the ability to live several lives in one lifetime, but often people choose to live one life…the comfortable life. Taking risks (healthy risks) and putting yourself out there is the best way to grow and learn and essentially reinvent yourself! I can’t think of a better way to help jump start this new you- then by getting dumped!!

So next time you are feeling the woes of a broken heart, don’t just sit around and wait for that person to realize they miss you or eat 9 gallons of Double Fudge Brownie. Think of all of the great things you have time to do now that you are single and DO THEM!

~Relationship Vixen

How do you handle your break-ups? Do you sit around with your girlfriends and mope or perhaps you throw yourself overtime into your work? Whatever it is that you do to help get through a difficult breakup, Social Vixen wants to know!